Friday, April 22, 2011

Can You Recommend Me?

Perhaps you are on the social media website LinkedIn. Do you have recommendations? Have you gotten a request from a coworker, friend or colleague asking you to write a recommendation for them? How easy was that? How hard was that?

Everyone is worth recommending for something. The coworker who is the office cutup and makes everyone laugh, worth recommending for not taking work too seriously. The colleague who arrives on time for work, for every meeting, for appointments and leaves on time is worth recommending for punctuality. The friend who always has an excuse for not being able to help out when in need worth recommending for creativity. How about the coworker who never is to blame for mistakes, problems or failure worth recommending for being perfect. How about the colleague who critiques, who finds fault, and who whines about everyone and everything, worth recommending for an eye for detail. There is the always vocal and opinionated friend who is worth recommending for being knowledgeable. The colleague who is always talking, never silent maybe worth recommending for used car sales.

Are you worth being recommended? For what should you be recommended?

Can you be recommended as someone who goes the extra mile, who does the unexpected, who can be counted on in the good times and the bad times?

Can you be recommended as someone who takes ownership for their mistakes, who learns from failure and makes herself more valuable to the team?

Can you be recommended as someone who is self-assured and gives credit to others when success occurs?

Can you be recommended as someone who makes life just a little bit easier to live, a joy to be around, a person who knows your faults and accepts you just for who you are?

Can you be recommended as a confidant, someone who has integrity, someone who is ethical, someone who walks-their-talk?

Can you be recommended as someone who is imperfect, has flaws, accepts themselves just as they are and continues to be a work in progress?

What will you be recommended for?


Becky R-P said...

As someone who has known you on and off for 40 years (!), I'd recommend you as someone who has capitalized on their potential in inspiring and creative ways.

SBGB1 said...

Typically when I get a request, I ask the person to write exactly what they want me to say. This drives self introspection and 9 times out of 10, the person fails to deliver back to me anything.
It is this introspection, which is healthy. For the one out of 10 which does deliver a written product, you modify it as necessary.

Terry Welker said...

Writing a recommendation shouldn't be taken lightly and if you do take time to do it be thoughtful, insightful, graceful and above all truthful. I've had the opportunity to write recommendations for some fellow architects seeking important achievement recognition or students seeking college entry and always found it a pleasure.

Unfortunately with LinkedIn its very casual. And now in my role as a public official and neutral adjudicator, recommendations for professionals whose work I review can have ethical and legal consequences. Hence I refrain unless its for a close personal friend or non-work related.

Still, this is an art to be cultivated. Thanks for the insight Dave!

Carol Platt said...

I enjoy making those recommendations because it gives me a chance to reflect on the uniqueness of that individual. It's a very nice way to say "thank you" for the positive interactions and successful business that you have engaged in with that person. On the flip side, I'm always humbled by someone else's words. The power of positive encouragement through something as simple as a Linkedin recommendation never ceases to amaze me!

Carol Platt