A buzzword around the training and education circles is about learning to be authentic. There are books, classes, programs and workshops on authentic leadership, authentic organizations, authentic beauty, authentic learning, authentic voice, authentic happiness, authentic brand to name a few. Authentic has lost its edge. It’s overused. The word may actually raise more questions and suspicion than define. It is also an abstract descriptor begging for more meaning. While the concept is noble, I wonder about the principle challenge to authenticity, fakin’ it. I think we have a whole lot of authentic fakin’ it going on!
I'm such a dubious soul,
And a walk in the garden
Wears me down.
Tangled in the fallen vines,
Pickin' up the punch lines,
I've just been fakin’ it,
Not really makin' it.
from Fakin’ It written by Paul Simon
Learning fakin’ it
Big boys don’t cry...in other words fakin’ it
Father telling his five year old daughter to apologize to the other little girl whom she hit, “and say it like you mean it!”... learn to fakin’ it
You can be anything you want to be...faked out.
There is one piece of pizza left and you say you don’t want it...you're fakin’ it.
Rude fakin’ it
Attending a meeting, sitting in church, sitting in the audience at your child’s school play...looking down at your Blackberry answering email... fakin’ it
Taking credit for other people’s work... fakin’ it
Fakin’ it for survival
You’re a drama queen... fakin’ it
Spending more than you make...fakin’ it...not really makin’ it
Treating the Bible like a software license...scroll down and hit “I AGREE”... fakin’ it
Unyielding, unlistening, determined certainty... I know what I believe, don’t confuse me thus believing everything you think... fakin’ it
Having an open door policy, but never in or is always busy... fakin’ it
Miscellaneous fakin’ it
Leaning against an expensive car that’s not yours... fakin’ it
Facebook ‘likes’...could be fakin’ it
Publicity stunts... fakin’ it
Flirting waitress or waiter... fakin’ it for the tip
Serious, unprincipled fakin’ it
Mark Sanford, Governor of South Carolina, said he was hiking the Appalachian Trail but went to Argentina to see his mistress... fakin’ it
John Edwards having an affair while appearing to support his wife who is fighting cancer... fakin’ it
A priest, pastor, counselor or other trusted person who preys on victims... fakin’ it
Before you add “authentic” to your resume, bio, introduction, Linkedin, or title of your next program check your fakin’ it factor. We all do some sort of fakin’ it. Fakin’ it is a coping mechanism. What degree are you fakin’ it? Does fakin’ it rule your life? Do you need to authentically work on your fakin’ it ?